Before entering into a marriage life…think twice.
Both of you has to
decide. Think twice…either hold, or drop. Talk to each other; talk to yourself- 'let us marry; if we get along it is fine; if we do not get along we will
divorce each other, or we will go for a separation; mutually agreed'. These are
the options; very limited options. When options are less; when chances are there,
of breaking the Knot…why to marry?
Both of you are going to be responsible for
a life…which is going to come- children are delicate, think twice, before your
marriage. Do not marry; if understanding is not there. Why to marry; unnecessary
hustles.
Marriage is a must; if the decision is taken in a meditative mood.
A very
different kind of world you might create; if both of you believe in Meditation- When
embracing each other, stay there…become the embrace. This oneness is needed. These
ones; where everything is dissolved in one; when this dualism of two persons
embracing each ether, becomes one…then a circle is formed, where dualism is
lost; and when circle is formed…it cannot be separated...marry, if you can reach this state, of understanding.
It takes only few words
to describe this circle…to realize this; you have to understand yourself. This viewpoint
comes; when you drop your entire ego; when nothing stays inside you. When you
drop everything; whatever you have learnt so far. When your slate is clean, when
there is absolute silence, inside you, when dualism is completely lost, and
when you have become a circle; where there is no beginning, no end…then in that
situation, whatever happens to you; that is you, your reality.
In Hindu philosophy; it is
said- “Satyam, Shivam, Sunderm “Whatever is truth is Shiv{Lord}, and Shiv is
beautiful. And the word Creation is beautiful; sacred, hence, think twice…before your
marriage.
It is not a easy thing to do…both of you are going to create a new
life. If you can create a healthy atmosphere; amid heavy adversity…then go
for Marriage. Marriage is sacred. Everything is sacred. You are sacred…only
realizing point is missing.
Do not marry.
You can live your life staying unmarried, then what is the need; what is
the purpose of marriage. Humanity, always keeps different idiosyncrasies. If you
believe in yourself…then go for marriage.
It might appear to you that you believe
in yourself, you understand yourself; beware it might be a hallucination, created by your mind. Your
mind is crafty. Your mind is cunning. To
keep you in its control; mind goes on creating false notion in you. You keep thinking
it is real; actually it is not. For example, when you practice meditation; and
sometimes you go on sitting at one place hours together, and when you emerge
from that state, you feel relaxed; you think you have achieved…it is false; created by
your mind, it is merely momentary outcome of sitting at one place, for hours.
This
feeling of yours is not true. This is dangerous. It might appear to you that,
now you know yourself; now you understand who you are. You might go on writing
books on ‘self realization’…stay alert; your knowledge is false.
You take
birth; you are innocent. You grow up; you acquire knowledge…your innocence is
gone. Now you are educated; shrewd. Now everything is a manipulation to you…even
Marriage. It is a game. Life is a game for you. You have set a goal; which you
have to achieve.
Now, your planning starts. You have to plane your life. You have to plane your marriage…innocence is lost. Now marriage is a business to you. You
have to manipulate your life. Now life is a gain and loss to you. Marriage is a
business to you; marriage is a purpose to you. Do not marry…unnecessary you will be
destroying a life, which is going to come.
Earn money; earn status…enjoy your
life. You can enjoy your life in this way too. But be careful, this enjoyment will be false…created by
your mind. At the end of your life; when death comes knocking at your door, you
will realize; you have wasted. Your entire life you have wasted.
You must earn
money, money is needed. You must marry; marriage is needed; you must set a goal
for you; goal is needed…understand yourself first. This understanding will not come to you, if
you are in control of your mind. Your mind should be in your control.
When realization of oneness comes; this
realization brings, awareness, and in that aware state you will realize…Marriage
is not needed. Because, here dualism is lost, you have become one.
And to reach
this state…Marriage is needed. And you can feel this realization of yours;
which gives the understanding of dualism, and oneness…comes through Meditation.
Ashoka
Stop Press: This article is about Marriage; hence, here stress is on marriage. To
understand the meaning of dualism, and oneness, little more, and on power
of Nothingness…we will talk, in my, another article.
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